One thought when making a decision is, “Do I get to do it again?”
If you’re making dinner for example, and you’re not sure if some lemon juice will go with the pasta you’re making, you can try it. Perhaps if it’s bad, and that was the last of the pasta, you won’t get to do it again, but you’ll do it again after your next shopping trip.
Getting the chance to do something again, reveals the level of importance of the decision. Agonizing over something like a job interview is important because you don’t get to do it again, at least not for that job.
How we approach decision making is affects the decisions that we make. If there is an opportunity to try again, it’s best to simply make a decision and view the results. If it’s something that only gets one shot, it’s best to be thorough.
Of course, this puts us in a conundrum. Wild imaginations may imagine failure leads to not getting any other chances in life. That if you open a restaurant, and it fails. You’ll never get to apply what you learned again.
That might be the case if you’re 70. Not so much if you’re 30.
There is an interesting psychology here. When I was a kid, playing video games, friends and I would fail at the same levels over and over again, and we never thought about stopping. Yet somehow, we lose this as we age. We take a shot, and miss, and think the world is over. Of course the reality is that as long as you’re alive, you can build your way back to getting to do it again.
If you’ll likely get another chance regardless of the outcome, what are you agonizing so much about?