Hire for emotional intelligence…

train for skills.

I’ve heard this from people like Gary Vaynerchuk. And while I agree it’s much easier to train for technical skills, isn’t this leaving people behind? 50% of people are less emotionally intelligent than average. That means that following this logic, the top 50%, or less, get their choice of jobs, while the lower 50% are screwed. Add in the fact they already aren’t good at handling emotions, are being hurt in their pursuit of a great life as a result, and at the same time being handed a microphone through the internet. It’s clear why the internet is filled with angry rhetoric and people who feel their situation is hopeless.

Emotional intelligence can be stunted early on by being born in a bad situation, without people willing to work on this with their workers, nothing improves for people. Like I said, by definition 50% of population is worse than average! That’s 3.5 Billion people left behind!

What’s the solution? I don’t have any bulletproof ideas at the moment, but I do have a couple thoughts.

Mr. Rogers was trying to address this. He was trying to get kids, even in bad situations, to learn how to handle their anger, sadness, shyness, and be strong inside. A lot of kids with neglectful parents still had a TV. I think he made good progress. However, it’s on everyone to teach, which isn’t easy, if it was, the saying would be, “Hire for technical skills, train for emotional intelligence.”

The common good of society is built when people care about workers of all abilities and temperament. Minimum wage jobs may exist because some skills are less marketable, but in any healthy society, anyone working should be getting developed in some way, even if it’s their employer seeing them as a person, and showing them how to be the best person they can be.